Friday, February 8, 2013


For a while, "multitasking" was all the rage.  It seemed as if almost any amount of work could be accomplished if only the worker did multitasking.  (It's amazing that more of us weren't laid off, since a lot more work could obviously be done by far fewer people.)  But, gradually, most people realized intuitively or read the research that showed that multitasking was not the solution to everything.  Multitasking, in fact, did not work.  . . .  This leads me to the present day when I take pride in consciously "single-tasking" whenever I have a job in front of me.  I wholeheartedly recommend it, especially to those "middle aged" (i.e. older) folks like me.

How Therapy Works

This is how I think psychotherapy works.  It works by convincing you either that:
1) You're not as crazy as you thought you were (or)
2) You are crazy, but it's not really your fault. 

When Things Settle Down (WTSD)

Some years ago, I had a friend whose life seemed to be constantly in a state of chaos -- though probably not any more than anyone else's.  But she was always optimistic that, at some time in the future, things would be different; things would be better.  She would start many sentences with, "When things settle down . . . ."  At some point, she probably realized that life was always more-or-less chaotic and that things might never actually settle down.  At least I realized that, looking at her life, and eventually realized the same thing about my own life.  Nevertheless, my husband and I started to adopt her expression and state that we would do such-and-such, "when things settle down."  We said this so many times, and it seemed to use so many syllables, that we eventually adopted the shorthand way of saying this.  We would just say, "WTSD . . . ."  You're welcome to use this shorthand for yourself, if you want to talk about what will happen  . . .  when things settle down.